Tracy Cartwright with Ursula Maria Bell
9 Oct 2026
What if the real essence of Family Constellations is about more than the technique itself?
In this episode of Constellations and All That, Tracy Cartwright speaks with Ursula Maria Bell, a Family Constellations facilitator, trainer and author whose work is deeply rooted in love, reconciliation, responsibility and inner wisdom.
Ursula shares how her own painful experiences with her mother and sister led her to Family Constellations and how she eventually came to understand that constellations are not simply a technique, but an inner posture and a way of living.
Her book, In the Spirit of Love and Reconciliation: More Than Constellations, reflects this journey and explores what can happen when we move from rejection and judgment towards acknowledgement, acceptance and reconciliation.
In this conversation, Ursula and Tracy explore:
Why Ursula believes we need to stop working so hard on ourselves
Moving from rejection and judgment towards acknowledgement and acceptance
The importance of reconciling with our past, our family and eventually ourselves
How Viktor Frankl’s logotherapy and the search for meaning influence Ursula’s work
The orders of love and the orders of helping
Why “helping” can sometimes get in the way of truly being with someone
The difference between empathy and becoming entangled in another person’s emotions
What it means to trust someone’s own process rather than assuming we know what they need
How Family Constellations transformed Ursula’s relationship with her family and saved her marriage
Her experience of reconciling with her mother before her mother’s death
The wisdom that can emerge when we stop constantly searching for more information
Her work with the Life Integration Process
Why she believes we are never too old to follow a dream
And what may be emerging for Ursula as she looks beyond constellations and towards her next chapter
One of the central messages throughout the conversation is that sometimes we don't need to fix ourselves, fix others or even “help” in the way we think we do.
Sometimes, it is enough to be there, listen, acknowledge and trust the process.
Connect with Ursula Maria Bell
🌐 Website: ursulamariabell.com
📖 Book: In the Spirit of Love and Reconciliation: More Than Constellations
Available in hardcover, softcover and e-book, including a German edition.
I’d love to hear what resonates with you—drop me a message on Instagram @tracy.cartwright and for more insights visit my website at tracycartwright.co.nz